Comparison Reset
A short written exercise for the days the feed makes your life look small.
YOUR LIFEIS NOTTHEIR FEED.
8 minutes / IdentityHumans have always compared themselves to others — it is how we calibrate. What changed is the sample size, the editing, and the fact that comparison is now optimised for engagement rather than accuracy.
Good for: a feed that keeps rearranging how you feel about your life
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Name the specific comparison. Not 'everyone', a person and a thing.
- 02
Write what you're not seeing: timeline, cost, help, luck, failures.
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Ask whether you actually want the thing, or the feeling you've assigned to it.
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Write one action that moves you toward the feeling, not the image.
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