Raising Kids in a Digital World
Your child's device is not the problem to solve. Your relationship with them, and your own relationship with technology, is the thing that actually determines how this goes.
Why this matters now
Most parenting advice about screens arrived either as blanket panic or blanket permission, and neither one matches what developmental research actually shows or what your household actually needs.
Children are not experiencing childhood the way you did, and pretending otherwise, or trying to recreate your own childhood by fiat, sets up a losing argument at exactly the age when your influence matters most.
The families who navigate this well are not the ones with the strictest rules. They are the ones with the most honest relationship to their own use, the clearest conversations, and agreements built with the child rather than issued to them.
Every year of delay in facing this directly costs you leverage. The earlier you build a shared language about technology in your house, the less this becomes a fight and the more it becomes a normal part of family life.
What you'll understand
- What developmental science actually says about readiness for phones, social platforms and gaming, separate from the age-based folklore that circulates among parents.
- Why your own phone habits shape your child's relationship with technology more than any rule you set, and what modelling really means in practice.
- How attention and attachment work in family life, and why presence is the resource children are actually short on.
- The difference between control and influence, and why the first erodes as children grow while the second compounds.
- What gaming, social media and group chats each offer psychologically, and why treating them as one category of "screen time" misses what is actually happening.
- How to build a family technology culture that flexes with age, repairs after conflict, and survives contact with a real child rather than a hypothetical one.
What you'll actually do
- Complete a family technology audit that maps who uses what, when, and what it displaces in your household.
- Use a readiness decision tool before the next platform, device or account request lands on your kitchen table.
- Build a written family agreement collaboratively rather than issuing a rulebook.
- Practice a structured conversation guide for the discussions that usually go sideways: first phone, gaming limits, what happened in the group chat.
- Draft a personal Modern Human Plan for your family's next twelve months with specific, revisitable commitments.
Who this is for
- Parents of children anywhere from six to sixteen who want a framework rather than a fight.
- Co-parents who disagree with each other about screens and want a shared, evidence-informed starting point.
- Parents who suspect their own phone use is part of the picture and want to address that honestly rather than defensively.
- Anyone who has tried strict rules, watched them fail, and wants something that holds up over years rather than weeks.
The curriculum
- 01
What Development Actually Says About Readiness
Beyond age rules: what the research actually supports
20 min · Free preview
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Your Own Relationship With Technology
Modelling is the intervention that actually works
20 min
- 03
Attachment and Attention in Family Life
Presence is the resource children are actually short on
20 min
- 04
Conversations That Keep Influence, Not Control
Why the goal is influence that lasts, not control that expires
20 min
- 05
Gaming, Social Media and Group Chats, On Their Own Terms
Three very different worlds, treated as one category by mistake
22 min
- 06
Building a Family Technology Culture
From rules issued to agreements built together
20 min
- 07
Repair When It Goes Wrong
Because it will, and the recovery matters more than the rule
20 min
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Your Modern Human Plan
A written, saved plan in your own words — what you want more of, less of, and what you are actually going to change.
Tools included
- Audit
Family Technology Audit
A structured look at what technology actually does in your household, for every family member, before you decide what to change.
- Decision tool
Readiness Decision Tool
A structured way to decide on a first phone, a new platform or a loosened limit, based on capacities rather than age alone.
- Boundary builder
Family Agreement Builder
A template for building a written family technology agreement together, rather than issuing one.
- Conversation guide
Conversation Guide
A structure for the technology conversations that usually go sideways: first phone requests, gaming limits, group chat trouble.
What Development Actually Says About Readiness
Beyond age rules: what the research actually supports
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One payment. Lifetime access, including every future revision of the course. Your reflections and your plan stay in your private account.